"Don't Judge". It's a really cute little phrase. It's a nice sentiment too but it's complete bullshit.
Everyone judges. Every day. All day. It's called "making a decision". Or "having an opinion". We notice things. We judge them good or bad, safe or unsafe. We agree or disagree. Things are in our comfort zone or not. We judge constantly.
We form opinions based on what we read, see and personally experience. Moral, cultural and religious beliefs complicate things even further. We live in a country which allows us to have and express our opinions. Did you see that Trump supporter from Iowa (please tell me you have been keeping up with basic American news) who says we should get rid of all Muslims living here? I judge that guy to be a small minded, bigot. I'm sure he has "friends" who think he's the smartest guy in Iowa. I judge those friends to be terrifying and an embarrassing subculture of America. I'm sure they would judge me to be cool and funny (who doesn't?) yet a misguided little woman. See, we all have our opinions. Some people's are just wrong.
Most of our judgments are shallow and less angry than that douchbag in Iowa. We notice surface stuff: hair color and style, skin color, a person's size and shape, their body language, clothing, etc. Then we add labels: skinny, fat, black, white, hispanic, muslim, gay, lesbian, old, young, hip, boring, professional, funny, bitchy, rich, poor, conservative, liberal. In a split second we've got the situation or person sized up and put in a convenient little package. It is easier that way.
Don't judge me for judging. It's human nature. It's how we all make it through the day. We don't need to "match" for us to like and respect each other. Though I'll tell ya, the further apart our moral compasses are, the less likely we are to be Friends.
Everyone judges. Every day. All day. It's called "making a decision". Or "having an opinion". We notice things. We judge them good or bad, safe or unsafe. We agree or disagree. Things are in our comfort zone or not. We judge constantly.
We form opinions based on what we read, see and personally experience. Moral, cultural and religious beliefs complicate things even further. We live in a country which allows us to have and express our opinions. Did you see that Trump supporter from Iowa (please tell me you have been keeping up with basic American news) who says we should get rid of all Muslims living here? I judge that guy to be a small minded, bigot. I'm sure he has "friends" who think he's the smartest guy in Iowa. I judge those friends to be terrifying and an embarrassing subculture of America. I'm sure they would judge me to be cool and funny (who doesn't?) yet a misguided little woman. See, we all have our opinions. Some people's are just wrong.
Most of our judgments are shallow and less angry than that douchbag in Iowa. We notice surface stuff: hair color and style, skin color, a person's size and shape, their body language, clothing, etc. Then we add labels: skinny, fat, black, white, hispanic, muslim, gay, lesbian, old, young, hip, boring, professional, funny, bitchy, rich, poor, conservative, liberal. In a split second we've got the situation or person sized up and put in a convenient little package. It is easier that way.
Don't judge me for judging. It's human nature. It's how we all make it through the day. We don't need to "match" for us to like and respect each other. Though I'll tell ya, the further apart our moral compasses are, the less likely we are to be Friends.
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